Universal property of Hp

One of the dumbest properties I have is, putting people on pedestals if they are nice to me and then getting hurt when they don't act accordingly a few times. One of the reasons why this happens is, I feel that if someone is nice to me it has to be a huge gesture of kindness because I don't deserve to be treated well. Self-hatred lies at the root of many recurrent problematic behaviour.
Mental Note: If a human is being nice to you, appreciate the deed. And most importantly, remember that he/she is a human, so they are allowed to make mistakes. Forgive and accept your imperfections and then do the same for others.